My fiance is a teacher. He appreciates my intellect and loves the fact that I'm a bookworm, but I think most of the other men I've known didn't like it.
Joined: 07 Oct 2007 {Posts: 248 } Location: United States
Posted: Fri 30 Jan 2009 03:54 Post subject:
sagascend wrote:
It's MOST men in my opinion. Not in the abstract sense, but if a woman is thought to be (or is) more intelligent/succesful/ambitious/independent than the man interested in her, there will be problems. Most men say that they like "smart women" but dig a little deeper and very few would like a woman perceived to be "smarter than them."
A truly secure, confident man isn't scared of smart women. In fact, they seek them out and see them as assets. Unfortunately, LOTS of men still need to feel superior to the women in their lives, and it's not like these men spend a lot of time self-analyzing to figure out why they seek to diminish women that they are attracted to.
I will say that my experience with AA men and some Carribean men is that they are more used to the notion of an "independent woman." Doesn't mean they liked it in reality.
Here's the opinion of a 20 yr old male with no true dating experience (self esteem related): I would easily date a woman more succesful or intelligent than myself. I would actually be afraid of her opinion of me; I would think that a woman of high status would want a male of equal or higher status. <------that is more-so a fear when it comes to success and ambition than it is when it comes to intelligence because intelligence is ambiguous and more abstract imo.
Such thoughts come from certain social constructs of gender roles. I've heard, on other forums, that many women would not date someone who is not as successful as themselves. Understandable, but I'm sure the percentage of women who feel that way is greater than that of males.
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