davidmatthews wrote:
hi, seeing as how i'm the topic of this thread, i thought i'd add a thought or two, from the horse's mouth as it were. first of all, great site, and keep up the good work.
second, as a writer, much less a "personality" (i did find it amusing that someone here referred to my "notoriety," in the wake of brooke kroeger's book, which has sold--no reflection on her or her writing skills--around eleven copies to date) of mixed-race, i have only my perceptions of race in this country, and its import or irrelevance. i agree with many of the stated objectives and philosophies on this board--race is an arbitrary distinction, a phenotypic expression of an homogeneous species. i'm not a scientist, and i'll leave the eugenics to the rest of you, who are far more able to break that shit down. but--in the american context--it is foolish to assert or expect that the culture at large--white culture (non-latino white culture--yeah, yeah, but what is "white?" --spare me that cunard) has embraced, or even recognized "mutli-racial"--EXCEPT as it occurs among non-black pairings. it is possible that the views expressed by me, or by those who choose to write about me, and my experiences, are hopelessly dated, out of step with an evolving and inclusive population. my experiences have not borne this out. i have and do experience racism in some form or another, at least once a month, and i live in the multi-cultural stew known as new york city.
I lived in NY for a while and it is one of the most segregated racist places I have ever been. NY is definitely a stew, with chunks of ethnicities floating around and some even mixing, but the majority keeping in their respective turfs. It is no accident that the mixed population has a lot more support groups than, say, in San Francisco. I agree with you that you have a right to identify as you see fit. I am an ardent supporter of self identity. On the same token I would say your experience is not the same as that of all other people of mixed ancestry and especially not that of first generational mixing. In those cases the debate of what to identify with tend to be much stronger and people go every which way. I see you as no different than Walter White. Born looking White to many, but fully identified as Black.
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(by "experience" racism, i do not mean that it is even necessarily directed at me, just that i observe it playing out around me. constantly). but again, perhaps i come from a different time and place (grew up in baltimore, circa 1980's), and am sensitized to matters of race and identity (perhaps an understatement); but this idea of "choice," or a supposed "middle-ground" when it comes to race in america is specious. with race--a determination made BY OTHERS, for the most part (we'll get to cultural experience as linked to racial identity in a moment)--where we "decide" to land on the color line really isn't up to us, unless we are those herculean vanguards who fall into the "i will not let others define me" camp (hey--more power to them! wish i could have done it as a kid--still wouldn't have helped me get a cab, though).
Somehow, by that picture, I highly doubt you would have had a problem getting a cab in NYC.
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when i was growing up, there were only black people and white people. mixed people were black. period. (baltimore had an hispanic population of about 1 percent, so that wasn't an option. now, it's up to 4 percent). my household was black, as was my culture, as was my neighborhood. my entire known family was black. my father and grandmother were black, though as light skinned as myself--and they were horrified that i could even think of "passing." now--let's assume for a moment that i agree with the premise that my "european" ancestry was every bit as valid a claim to my identity as my "blackness" (the quotes are for you guys, i find nothing wrong with black or white as descriptors, but i am a dinosaur)--it wouldn't have mattered. i was called nigger more times than i can count, once my white friends/acquaintances discovered that my father was black. in my case, the "lying eyes" gambit was definitely only skin deep. i could have railed to the sun and moon, and the outside population's views of me would not have been altered. that is what is so insidious about race in america: it is a surface distinction, and there's not a whole lot one can do about the way one looks. to the posters who suggested that i looked "italian" or "peurto rican" or "jewish"--that was what i banked on growing up (except for the fact, as i said, that there were no peurto ricans where i came from). trouble was, the jewish kids KNEW that i wasn't one them, just by looking at me.
Depends on which Jews were around you. Sounds like you had Ashkenazi people around you. You would have passed with flying colors among the Sephardis
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(and where i'm from, you don't fuck around with the italians, not even in jest). but i was jewish--at least by their matrilineal laws. didn't matter. lips too thick. skin too yellow. that left one option: black.
see above.
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again, this quaint "mixed" thing had not taken hold. and if anyone thinks it has, ask harold ford, or better yet, ask obama once he's in the midst of his candidacy.
You do not have Harold or Obama's phenotype. Let's not use specious examples. If you are going to use an example, try James Earl Jones son.
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you will find the exultations of his "multiracial" background wither into dust as america does what it does best. now, for the record, i am not saying that those who lump people into regimented and ill-fitting boxes are correct--it is a horrible practice left-over from slavery. race should not matter. but it does--at least in the world i grew up in and continue to observe. maybe this is all changing and i have been stuck in a segregated mindset that doesn't exist any longer. I HOPE SO. of course, at lunch today, a prominent nyc publisher informed me that she could never marry someone with my genetic background because her liberal jewish parents "weren't THAT liberal," and an agent told me that i wasn't really "black." maybe. but the fact that in a progressive bastion (entertainment) two early-thirty somethings felt comfortable saying that to me speaks volumes.
Actually, I have seen some of the most racist people in the media. They are so flighty and PC they think they can never be racist but walk around with a ton of stereotypes in their head.
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your scholarship into what race is or isn't is valuable and honorable. what it fails to address is the actual disparity between white and black in this country. (i could parse this out further to mean rich vs. poor, but we haven't gotten that far yet; not with white katrina "survivors," and black katrina "looters.")
Partially agree. Thee weren't that many, if any that i can think of, that were caught leaving stores with beers, TV's etc. Taking reserves for the long haul is a little different than taking leisure items.
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it has historically been a benefit to be white in this country. it still is. fact. (i am talking simple access to jobs/housing/education/fair treatment under the law, not some metaphysical ideal). that is the root and meaning of passing--not some gregor mendel bullshit about genotypes and phenotyoes.
To a degree yes. Glass ceiling. But plenty of whites never made it past the door to profit from it.
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lastly, in response to this quote from Powell :
"The myth of the fanatical, racist, Negro-blood hating white majority. The Multiracial movement disproved this myth. It was the NAACP and the rest of the "black" political and cultural elites who lined up to demand the continuation of the "one drop" myth. Most American whites have no interest in forcing those who don't look or act "black" to call themselves "black.""
really? this "mythical" negro-blood hating majority was my reality. the "multiracial" movement? um, ok. i have 400 years of america's history and hundreds of personal instances of knowing for a fact that not only does america care, it cares pathologically. as a black man--or even a "mixed" man--the fear is palpable. does the "call me, harold" commercial ring a bell?
LMAO. I agree with you, except for Harold. I still think people are taking it out of context. He went to a playboy party, they wanted to show him as a party animal. A Black playboy bunny just does not convey Playboy. Hefner is always surrounded by blondes.
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as a mixed woman, it might be seen as exotica, but as a mixed man it is seen as a tincture. anyway, sorry for the winding (and long-winded) rant, but as a mixed--though i prefer black, as it speaks to a singular experience in an america that does not care about shades of grey--person, who is also the subject of this post, i couldn't help myself.
Again, I know the experiences in NY, so I'll agree, but i still say you have never experienced half what a dark skinned person experiences and I think you turn a blind eye to the racism that comes from the other side as well.
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and p.s.:
tiger woods is most assuredly a black man, no matter what else he likes to call himself. take away his golf game and let him try to get a cab, or explain to the police on his honeymoon night that he's unarmed before they shoot him 52 times. let's see how far that "blasian" bullshit gets him.
Again, keep the stereotypes to yourself, because they won't fly with facts. Yes tiger woods might be discriminated against. So do many dark south asians. Doesn't change who they are. The majority of his ancestry is Asian and he looks it. By the way, the worst case of police brutality was against a white person. He was shot over 100 times. Don't assume police only target Blacks.
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i really, really do like this site and wish it had been around when i was a kid. it would have made my life a little easier. (but just a little

best,
david matthews.
Naw, I think if you would have hung out with us you would have been quite surprised. My experience in SA was quite different as well. It is nice to hang out around people that can relate and still have quite varied opinions.